Time for YOU

     I ran into a mother of 4, the other day, who complained to me that her family intrudes into her personal space and is not supportive of her taking time away for herself!  As a woman, who is also a mother of 4, I couldn’t fathom feeling so busy and overwhelmed that I could not keep scheduled, routine pampering appointments, steal away some time with friends, or enjoy my annual “me-cations”!  Afterall, these are the activities that keep me sane, motivated, and refreshed!      Unfortunately, not everyone has elevated their mindsets to support and encourage their loved ones to take time to themselves, and not everyone who needs and deserves time to themselves are willing participants in their own quest for peace… and quiet!  If you want to enjoy the right to an escape for a few minutes or a few days, here are a few tips for conditioning your family to get on board: 1.  Explain to your family the importance of time to yourself, the types of activities you will partake in, what you expect from them, and what they can expect from you.  Answer any questions that they may have. 2.  Schedule the time! Visibly place a monthly calendar in the home and note the dates that you have scheduled your time. 3.  Don’t talk about it anymore!  Questions about your activities have already been answered.  Anyone who is probing you for information after that is likely trying to take you on a guilt trip!  Don’t take the trip!   4.  If guilt is a problem for you, continuously affirm that you are...

P.O.P. The Question!

Have you decided to ask for what you want in life, or are you willing to just sit on the sidelines and watch other people get what they want?  I’ll admit that asking for what you want can be quite intimidating, especially if you are unsure of exactly what you want, who to ask, or how to ask for it.  However, whether in your professional or personal life, asking for what you want is necessary, in order to LIVE an INcredible life! I’ve developed three strategies that you help you to P.O.P. the question: 1.  Be Purposeful.  What is the ultimate goal that you are trying to achieve?  You have know what you want and why you want it!  You have to determine how asking your question is going to help you to achieve your goal.  Having this amount of clarity will help you to better articulate your question and to develop the confidence that you’ll need to ask. 2.  Be Optimistic.  If you don’t believe that it will happen, it probably won’t; and if you don’t think that you deserve it, who else will?  A lack of confidence and self-worth breeds the thoughts of negativity that will cause you to believe that the answer to your question will automatically be a “no”.  Since we attract what we think, you have to begin to release those negative perceptions and thoughts of yourself, and begin to affirm that you deserve, can have, and will accept every good thing that you desire. 3. Be Precise. After you’ve determined why you want whatever it is that you’re willing to ask for and that you can...

Traditions block transitions!

The other day, as my children and I were preparing to leave home for the day, I noticed that my youngest daughter had styled her hair into an afro.   I said to her, “You’re not leaving your hair that way… At least put on a headband!” She replied, “Why?!… I combed it and I love it!  You can comb your hair (my hair is processed) and leave the house.  Let my hair be!” Her response really made me question why her choice of hairstyling bothered me so much!  This caused me to think very deeply about the subject matter.  Exactly what was it, within myself, that made me want to change the hairstyle that she loved? After some soul searching, I discovered that the culprit was a mindset of conditioning and tradition that was engrained in me during my upbringing!  When I was her age, I was taught to believe that my hairstyle was not considered complete unless my hair had been pressed, braided, put into pig tails, etc.  However, it was perfectly acceptable for people of other cultures or with other hair textures to simply comb their hair and it was considered done.  Therefore, I discovered that the issue was not my daughters hair style, it was my mindset!   On that date, I decided release myself from those thoughts, judgements, criticisms, and traditions that have, for so long, captivated the minds of those of us born with curly, kinky locks; and it actually made me feel proud that I’m raising a daughter who has enough courage, self-acceptance, and self-love to embrace who she is!  Otherwise, how could...

Welcome to W.I.N.E. Down with Ayanna!

Hello, and thank you for visiting our blog page, W.I.N.E. Down with Ayanna! W.I.N.E. Down is a process in which a series of strategies and techniques, as well as, inspiring stories, will be shared to encourage you to LIVE today!  W.I.N.E., although a refreshing, calming, tasty, classy choice, isn’t  just a wonderful beverage.  Each letter represents powerful action words, which will inspire you, wherever you are in your journey, to release yourself from the negative influences that have stifled your progress to greatness, and to elevate to your next level! Are you ready?  I know that you are more than capable, and I believe that each of you are already INcredible!  Therefore, it’s time to unleash the power that you possess, already inside of you, and experience the INcredible life that you...