Time for YOU

     I ran into a mother of 4, the other day, who complained to me that her family intrudes into her personal space and is not supportive of her taking time away for herself!  As a woman, who is also a mother of 4, I couldn’t fathom feeling so busy and overwhelmed that I could not keep scheduled, routine pampering appointments, steal away some time with friends, or enjoy my annual “me-cations”!  Afterall, these are the activities that keep me sane, motivated, and refreshed!      Unfortunately, not everyone has elevated their mindsets to support and encourage their loved ones to take time to themselves, and not everyone who needs and deserves time to themselves are willing participants in their own quest for peace… and quiet!  If you want to enjoy the right to an escape for a few minutes or a few days, here are a few tips for conditioning your family to get on board: 1.  Explain to your family the importance of time to yourself, the types of activities you will partake in, what you expect from them, and what they can expect from you.  Answer any questions that they may have. 2.  Schedule the time! Visibly place a monthly calendar in the home and note the dates that you have scheduled your time. 3.  Don’t talk about it anymore!  Questions about your activities have already been answered.  Anyone who is probing you for information after that is likely trying to take you on a guilt trip!  Don’t take the trip!   4.  If guilt is a problem for you, continuously affirm that you are...

All that we have is right now!

If you’ve been feeling depressed or anxious, chances are you are having a difficult time LIVING in the right now! Living in the present is an essential component to your personal peace, harmony, and happiness; and it’s really simple to identify the culprits that you are allowing to rob you of those things: the past and the future! Simply put, if you’re feeling depressed, your mind is in the past; and if you’re feeling anxious, your mind is future. Therefore, the remedy is to change your thoughts! Yes, you have the power to control your own mind and it’s the only thing that you have the power to do in a situation in which your thoughts are causing you to feel depressed or anxious! Face it, there is absolutely nothing that we can do to change the past, and the future hasn’t occurred yet! Therefore, why waste your precious time thinking about events that are out of your control when you could be enjoying Life, as is? How do you feel RIGHT NOW? Where are you RIGHT NOW? What are you experiencing RIGHT NOW? How could you do to make it better RIGHT...

P.O.P. The Question!

Have you decided to ask for what you want in life, or are you willing to just sit on the sidelines and watch other people get what they want?  I’ll admit that asking for what you want can be quite intimidating, especially if you are unsure of exactly what you want, who to ask, or how to ask for it.  However, whether in your professional or personal life, asking for what you want is necessary, in order to LIVE an INcredible life! I’ve developed three strategies that you help you to P.O.P. the question: 1.  Be Purposeful.  What is the ultimate goal that you are trying to achieve?  You have know what you want and why you want it!  You have to determine how asking your question is going to help you to achieve your goal.  Having this amount of clarity will help you to better articulate your question and to develop the confidence that you’ll need to ask. 2.  Be Optimistic.  If you don’t believe that it will happen, it probably won’t; and if you don’t think that you deserve it, who else will?  A lack of confidence and self-worth breeds the thoughts of negativity that will cause you to believe that the answer to your question will automatically be a “no”.  Since we attract what we think, you have to begin to release those negative perceptions and thoughts of yourself, and begin to affirm that you deserve, can have, and will accept every good thing that you desire. 3. Be Precise. After you’ve determined why you want whatever it is that you’re willing to ask for and that you can...

Have you claimed your own personal freedom?

We’ve just finished celebrating America’s freedom, but I ask you:  have you truly claimed your own personal freedom?  In order to LIVE an INcredible life, you must be willing to accept and operate with great degree of independence over your life! Are you still entertaining people and unhealthy relationships that you know should have been released from your life long ago?  Are you harboring guilt, unforgiveness, or shame stemming from past life events?  Are you allowing others to dictate how your life should be lived, despite the fact that you believe otherwise?  Are you suffering physically, and allowing your condition to prevent you from experiencing Life, as you’ve always envisioned it?  Are bills and debt causing you to stay in an employment or career situation, which no longer suits you? Are you consumed by your fear of change? The aforementioned questions were designed to encourage you to think about how you are currently living your life, and to provoke you to decide whether change is necessary.  It’s essentially no one’s decision but your own, and it all starts with your mindset!  If you have a desire to LIVE, and there are obstacles and challenges that you’ve allowed to enter into your life that are preventing you from doing so; you must first decide that change is necessary and exactly how committed you are to changing those aspects of your life! Which will you choose?   Chaotic relationships or peaceful, harmonious ones?  Past feelings or present blessings?  Other people’s opinions or your soul’s desires?  Suffering or wholeness?  Fear or Faith? Bondage or...

Welcome to W.I.N.E. Down with Ayanna!

Hello, and thank you for visiting our blog page, W.I.N.E. Down with Ayanna! W.I.N.E. Down is a process in which a series of strategies and techniques, as well as, inspiring stories, will be shared to encourage you to LIVE today!  W.I.N.E., although a refreshing, calming, tasty, classy choice, isn’t  just a wonderful beverage.  Each letter represents powerful action words, which will inspire you, wherever you are in your journey, to release yourself from the negative influences that have stifled your progress to greatness, and to elevate to your next level! Are you ready?  I know that you are more than capable, and I believe that each of you are already INcredible!  Therefore, it’s time to unleash the power that you possess, already inside of you, and experience the INcredible life that you...