P.O.P. The Question!

Have you decided to ask for what you want in life, or are you willing to just sit on the sidelines and watch other people get what they want?  I’ll admit that asking for what you want can be quite intimidating, especially if you are unsure of exactly what you want, who to ask, or how to ask for it.  However, whether in your professional or personal life, asking for what you want is necessary, in order to LIVE an INcredible life! I’ve developed three strategies that you help you to P.O.P. the question: 1.  Be Purposeful.  What is the ultimate goal that you are trying to achieve?  You have know what you want and why you want it!  You have to determine how asking your question is going to help you to achieve your goal.  Having this amount of clarity will help you to better articulate your question and to develop the confidence that you’ll need to ask. 2.  Be Optimistic.  If you don’t believe that it will happen, it probably won’t; and if you don’t think that you deserve it, who else will?  A lack of confidence and self-worth breeds the thoughts of negativity that will cause you to believe that the answer to your question will automatically be a “no”.  Since we attract what we think, you have to begin to release those negative perceptions and thoughts of yourself, and begin to affirm that you deserve, can have, and will accept every good thing that you desire. 3. Be Precise. After you’ve determined why you want whatever it is that you’re willing to ask for and that you can...

Traditions block transitions!

The other day, as my children and I were preparing to leave home for the day, I noticed that my youngest daughter had styled her hair into an afro.   I said to her, “You’re not leaving your hair that way… At least put on a headband!” She replied, “Why?!… I combed it and I love it!  You can comb your hair (my hair is processed) and leave the house.  Let my hair be!” Her response really made me question why her choice of hairstyling bothered me so much!  This caused me to think very deeply about the subject matter.  Exactly what was it, within myself, that made me want to change the hairstyle that she loved? After some soul searching, I discovered that the culprit was a mindset of conditioning and tradition that was engrained in me during my upbringing!  When I was her age, I was taught to believe that my hairstyle was not considered complete unless my hair had been pressed, braided, put into pig tails, etc.  However, it was perfectly acceptable for people of other cultures or with other hair textures to simply comb their hair and it was considered done.  Therefore, I discovered that the issue was not my daughters hair style, it was my mindset!   On that date, I decided release myself from those thoughts, judgements, criticisms, and traditions that have, for so long, captivated the minds of those of us born with curly, kinky locks; and it actually made me feel proud that I’m raising a daughter who has enough courage, self-acceptance, and self-love to embrace who she is!  Otherwise, how could...

Have you claimed your own personal freedom?

We’ve just finished celebrating America’s freedom, but I ask you:  have you truly claimed your own personal freedom?  In order to LIVE an INcredible life, you must be willing to accept and operate with great degree of independence over your life! Are you still entertaining people and unhealthy relationships that you know should have been released from your life long ago?  Are you harboring guilt, unforgiveness, or shame stemming from past life events?  Are you allowing others to dictate how your life should be lived, despite the fact that you believe otherwise?  Are you suffering physically, and allowing your condition to prevent you from experiencing Life, as you’ve always envisioned it?  Are bills and debt causing you to stay in an employment or career situation, which no longer suits you? Are you consumed by your fear of change? The aforementioned questions were designed to encourage you to think about how you are currently living your life, and to provoke you to decide whether change is necessary.  It’s essentially no one’s decision but your own, and it all starts with your mindset!  If you have a desire to LIVE, and there are obstacles and challenges that you’ve allowed to enter into your life that are preventing you from doing so; you must first decide that change is necessary and exactly how committed you are to changing those aspects of your life! Which will you choose?   Chaotic relationships or peaceful, harmonious ones?  Past feelings or present blessings?  Other people’s opinions or your soul’s desires?  Suffering or wholeness?  Fear or Faith? Bondage or...

Welcome to W.I.N.E. Down with Ayanna!

Hello, and thank you for visiting our blog page, W.I.N.E. Down with Ayanna! W.I.N.E. Down is a process in which a series of strategies and techniques, as well as, inspiring stories, will be shared to encourage you to LIVE today!  W.I.N.E., although a refreshing, calming, tasty, classy choice, isn’t  just a wonderful beverage.  Each letter represents powerful action words, which will inspire you, wherever you are in your journey, to release yourself from the negative influences that have stifled your progress to greatness, and to elevate to your next level! Are you ready?  I know that you are more than capable, and I believe that each of you are already INcredible!  Therefore, it’s time to unleash the power that you possess, already inside of you, and experience the INcredible life that you...